Figure It Out!

Most men get pretty good at figuring things out. Work harder. Solve the problem. Keep moving. Take care of your responsibilities. Don’t make a big deal out of things.

That approach works surprisingly well. Until it doesn’t.

Relationships get complicated. Conflict gets harder to navigate. What you want and what someone else wants don’t always line up. The expectations around being a man, partner, father, leader, friend, or provider aren’t nearly as clear as they once seemed.

And somewhere along the way, you may realize:

Nobody actually taught us how to do this stuff.

That’s what NeoMan is about.

What Is NeoMan?

NeoMan is an eight-week experiential men’s group for thoughtful, capable men who want to understand themselves better, become more solid in relationships, and develop skills most of us were simply expected to figure out.

It’s not therapy. It’s not a support group where everyone sits around complaining about their lives. And it’s definitely not eight weeks of someone lecturing you about how you’re supposed to be a man.

We talk. We challenge ideas. We experiment. We use real situations from our lives. We practice new skills and see what happens. Sometimes it gets serious. Sometimes it’s funny. Usually it’s both.

Life As A Man

Most of us inherited ideas about what it meant to be a good man. Work hard. Provide. Be strong. Control yourself. Solve problems. Protect the people you care about. 

Those ideas weren’t necessarily wrong. But relationships, work, family, gender roles, and expectations have changed dramatically. Some of the old rules still work. Some don’t. And some of the new rules contradict each other.

Men are often left trying to navigate all of this without much conversation about what healthy masculinity actually looks like. NeoMan gives us somewhere to have that conversation. The goal isn’t to reject masculinity.

It’s to develop a more capable version of it.

What We’ll Explore

Over eight evenings, we’ll look at some of the places where men tend to get stuck and practice different ways of handling them. What does healthy masculine behavior actually look like? 

We’ll explore the difference between being passive, being aggressive, and becoming solid enough to hold your ground without sacrificing yourself or sacrificing everyone around you. Strength doesn’t require domination. Kindness doesn’t require surrender. There is a middle.

1.) Masculinity AND Femininity

Masculine and feminine behaviors aren’t simply about men and women. They describe different ways human beings interact with the world. We’ll explore how masculine energy tends to create direction and outcomes, while feminine energy tends to create connection through emotion and experience. You’ll begin recognizing both in yourself, your relationships, and the people around you. And you’ll see why conflict often happens when we don’t understand what the other person is actually trying to create.

2.) Relationships

Relationships aren’t difficult because somebody forgot to learn the correct communication technique. They’re difficult because two people sometimes want different things. A healthy relationship requires the ability to hold: What I want + What you want + The tension between them. Without immediately requiring one person to surrender. We call that being a Container. It’s one of the central skills we’ll practice in NeoMan. 

3.) Conflict

Most people deal with conflict by doing some version of: Fix. Fight. Fold. Flee.

Sometimes those strategies work. Often they create resentment. We’ll practice staying present when tension rises, understanding what’s actually happening underneath the argument, and moving conflict toward negotiation instead of victory. The goal isn’t to avoid conflict. It’s to get better at it.

4.) What’s Really Going On?

The thing you’re arguing about isn’t always the thing you’re arguing about. Human problems have layers. The surface issue may be money, sex, chores, parenting, work, or who forgot to text back. Go deeper and you’ll often find expectations. Deeper still, needs. Then fears. Then old assumptions about ourselves, relationships, and what we’re allowed to want. We’ll use an Onion model to practice going deeper instead of spending our lives arguing about the outer layer. That’s often where real negotiation becomes possible.

5.) Codependency, Baits and Hooks

People influence each other constantly. Sometimes deliberately. Sometimes without realizing it. We’ll explore the ways people throw out emotional Baits and the ways we unconsciously provide the Hooks that allow those baits to control us. You’ll learn to recognize the difference between: Someone having an emotion and You becoming responsible for making that emotion disappear. That’s an important distinction.

6.) Being a Solid AND Safe Man

Being solid doesn’t mean becoming emotionally rigid. It means knowing where you stand while remaining capable of hearing someone else. You can disagree without disappearing. You can care without surrendering. You can create boundaries without punishment. You can listen without becoming responsible for fixing everything you hear. That kind of solidity creates something surprisingly powerful: Safety. For you and for the people around you.

It’s An Experience. We Will:

Discuss: We’ll explore ideas together rather than treating them as rules you need to memorize.

Experience: You’ll participate in exercises designed to move concepts out of your head and into real life.

Practice: You’ll experiment with new ways of handling communication, boundaries, conflict, and relationships.

Challenge: Other men will sometimes see things about you that are difficult to see yourself. That’s useful.

Laugh: Personal growth doesn’t require eight weeks of staring solemnly at the floor. Humor is encouraged.

Connect: Men tend to form friendships differently when they stop talking exclusively about work, sports, politics, and whatever is currently wrong with the Broncos. NeoMan creates room for something deeper.

By the end of NeoMan, you should have a better understanding of:

• How you personally express masculine and feminine behaviors.
• Where you tend to sacrifice yourself or sacrifice others.
• How to become more solid without becoming rigid.
• How to recognize and respond to emotional Baits & Hooks.
• Why certain conflicts keep repeating.
• How to go beneath the surface issue instead of arguing about it forever.
• How to hold competing wants long enough for real negotiation to happen.
• How to create clearer boundaries without withdrawing or attacking.
• How your behavior affects safety and connection in relationships.
• How to stay present when another person is disappointed, angry, emotional, or simply wants something different from you.
• What kind of man you want to become next.

Logistics and pricing

8 weekly meetings, 2 hours each

Tuesday evenings, 6:30–8:30 PM, Beginning September 15, 2026 in Lone Tree, Colorado

Your registration includes all eight meetings, group materials, exercises, diagrams, worksheets, and resources you can continue using after the group ends.

Investment: $470 for the complete eight-week experience. (A two-payment option is available.)

Group size is intentionally limited to 10 participants so everyone has an opportunity to participate.

Schedule A Call	I’d like to learn a little more about you and ensure this experience is a good fit for the goals you have in mind. Choose a date and time for our call using the online schedular.
Reserve Your Seat	Claim your spot in the group. Once enough have joined, I’ll let you know that the group will be meeting for sure.

 

There is a future version of you out there. He’s waiting for you to make some changes. Get started today.

Not Sure Whether NeoMan Fits You?

Good. You shouldn’t sign up for something like this based on a webpage. Before joining, we’ll have a short conversation. I’ll learn a little about you, what brought you to NeoMan, and what you hope to get from the experience. You can ask questions and decide whether the group feels right for you. And I’ll make sure NeoMan is an appropriate fit for what you’re looking for.