You CAN Fix the Difficult Stuff with Couples Counseling

When people call, it often goes like this:

“I think we’re both burned-out. It’s like we’re just roommates. We can’t communicate anymore. Whenever we talk about something that’s just a little bit hard, it blows up into a big fight. I think we’re headed for a divorce if we don’t get help soon.”

There’s a wall between you.

Unresolved arguments end with toxic words, slamming doors, or tense silence. And the next fight will end the same way leaving a heavy brick of resentment.

These bricks stack up over time into a wall of resentment and hurt that separates couples. It’s only through cracks in the wall that partners can see each other. But that’s not enough.

So, intimacy goes away. Then someone tries to, “Get their needs met” in a way that’s isolating like using too much alcohol or long hours at work – or worse.

Yes, there’s glue holding things together. But…

Kids, family, work, financial obligations, and maybe even occasional fun still happens. But over time, even that’s not enough. Then, the arguments stop. “What’s the point? We never get anywhere and they always end the same way!”

So there you are banging your head against that damn wall of resentments. Intimacy is empty, sex is mechanical (if it happens at all), and conversations are mostly about schedules.

• Does it seem like your words are never really heard?
• Do you feel stuck or tired of compromising?
• Do arguments end only to start again with the same results?
• Do you feel unappreciated or not cared about?
• Has a secret been uncovered that seems unrecoverable?
• Are you headed for separation or divorce?
• Is it hard to make decisions together?

The first step is a free phone consult. A brief conversation about:

• What is going on to cause you to make the call?
• How do you want things to change?
• Are there any blocks to moving forward?
• What have you tried so far?
• Do you have questions about the couples therapy process and my practice?
• What to do next.

Relationships help people grow.

I’ve been working with couples since 2013. I even based my Masters’s Project on the repeating cycle of how couples experience Intimacy and Conflict in a pattern that grows (or dissolves).

I will pull from the latest research in couples work like Gottman, Schnarch, Hendricks, and Johnson to help you solve the most pressing issues you face.

I’ll gently call-out the destructive patterns and guide you through difficult discussions – AND teach you to do it for yourselves because therapy is not forever.

At best, you might need an occasional check-up once in a while. I have arranged protocols to address Covid-related concerns so we can meet in-person at my office in Lone Tree, CO.

Are you ready to take the next step? Call (720) 924-1140 now to schedule a free consultation. Or, complete the form on this page to get started.